You would think that when people find out I have a natural ability to spot deception that has been studied by science that they would work a little harder to fib to me, wouldn’t you?
Well the sad reality is, they don’t. They still lie to me and lie as frequently to me as they do anyone else.
It flat out amazes me.
Each time it happens.
I guess I’ll never get over it because, to me, lies are so damn obvious.
Most of the lies are harmless lies, but they are still annoying. I think what annoys me the most is that people think they are transparent when they do it, but they are not. Clearly as they lie, they’ve convinced themselves that I couldn’t possibly see the truth.
I wish it was acceptable for me to say “Hey wait a minute. That’s not the truth and here is how I know why!” But of course that would only serve to alienate me–plus it’s absolutely fruitless–I can tell you that from years of childhood experiences.
So today, when I hear a lie, I sit and ponder it as that ratty little fib falls down before me as an unwelcome gift upon my lap — presented for only me to enjoy. There is nothing more that I can do but put a fake smile on face and act like nothing is wrong when, in fact, I am usually bursting inside to call you on it!
“Liar, liar, pants on fire!”
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Today marks the 4th year that “Eyes for Lies” has been blogging and bringing you the truth before it was known. It’s been another successful and rewarding year.
The one case that is questionable in my four years of blogging and that one could suggest affects my perfect track record would be the JonBenet Ramsey case. It all depends on how you feel.
I’d be honored if you, my readers, would share your thoughts about my blog, your interest in it, how long you’ve been reading it, and what you think about my track record. Anonymous comments are allowed.
Thanks for all your commitment and interest in my blog. May we have another successful and rewarding year! May the truth prevail!
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Dermatographia (click to see full-sized. Caution: It’s freaky looking up-close!)
I am just a strange cat. I see deception more than the average person, and when you scratch me, even gently, I welt. This is my arm after I took a pen cap with the stroke and force of penmanship, and wrote my name. There is no sign I did anything at first. Then over a couple of minutes, my skin welts up, and stays that way for 10 to 15 minutes or so. I thought all people did this, but I’ve realized that this is not so.
This woman, who has the same condition, appeared on 20/20 a few months back. She now uses her body as her art canvas, and she is fetching big bucks for it –$4500 per piece of artwork. Check out more images here.
Freaky! Did you see the show?
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This week represents my three year blog anniversary (and my thirteenth wedding anniversary). Woohoo! I did it!
I have blogged about hot topics in the news for three years now sharing what I saw as the truth before the truth was known, and I have hit bulls-eye every time during the past three years (from what we know to date). Oiy, that’s a bit daunting to write!
Read more Okay, I’ll admit it, I feel a natural instinctual desire to get up and run from from my desk after writing that. That’s a hard milestone to beat (gulp)! Writing that makes my heart pound. Yes, it is emotional for me. It freaks me out just a bit yet I am very proud.
I knew I could read people really well, but I never imagined I could be this accurate. I try not to think about it as it is overwhelming at times, and that overwhelming feeling starts to shut me down. I don’t want to go there! I shall forge ahead bravely…
I do expect to be wrong once and a while — please know that. If anything, it will show I am human and not machine. Right?
In the Wizard’s Project (scientific research project), in which I participated, no wizard (me included) was 100% accurate. In my personal life (off line), I do miss the mark — I want you to know that –though it is uncommon. I don’t want there to be any secrets!
Wizards areat least80% accurate, but no wizard is 100%.
I have never promised anyone I am flawless. Good, yes! Flawless, no!
Will you remember that when I miss the mark online one day? Will people be forgiving, or judge me harshly on one error? Scary thoughts!
During the last three years, I have had the honor to meet some exceptional people through my blog — people who have been inspirational to me. Thank you to all of you who have reached out to get to know me and share a part of yourselves.
When you write about people on the web today, you have a broad reaching audience. It is very likely the people you write about will read what you have to say. While I haven’t heard from any of the people suspected or convicted of a crime, I have heard from several homicide investigators, victims, family members and friends of victims. Plus, I’ve been introduced to some exceptional people who practice medicine, law and teach at universities — around the globe.
It has been the victims, family members and friends that have really inspired me through their feedback to keep going. They encourage me during difficult times in their lives to keep fighting for justice for all those who are unable.
Many thanks to my faithful readers!!
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I am a firm believer in the power of intuition. I believe that if you learn to tap into it, you can get some amazing and powerful results that will guide you like nothing you’ve ever experienced before.
I honed in on my intuition years ago when I was still a teenager. My mom encouraged me by sharing with me her intuitive feelings when I told her what was going on in my life. She’d give me advice based on her intuition, and over time, her intuitive sense astounded me. She was alwaysright. She told me how she implicitly trusted her intuition and that I should listen to mine.
And I must say after witnessing her successful track record first-hand, I decided to give it a try. When I got a message out-of-the-blue in my head that something wasn’t right, I listened to it. When I had fear but I got this gut feeling that I really shouldn’t be afraid, I worked hard to persevere, and it was life-changing for me.
Read more At first, I kept a mental score-card, because I didn’t always have the strength to listen to it, but after seeing it’s track record, I became confident to trust it.
In didn’t take long for me to realize that I had someone to turn to in those difficult moments that I learned I could depend on: me. And more amazingly, I became a much more confident person because I knew I could trust myself. It was a powerful win-win situation.
What I learned through listening to my intuition is that emotions—most specifically, desire and fear—are two big roadblocks to good intuitive results. I realized that if I desired something or feared something, what I often thought was intuitive was hope or fear, and had nothing to do with my intuition.
That’s not to say I was rendered helpless in these situations. Instead, I’d ask myself: Is this your fear (or desire) speaking? Or is this something more?
When the answer would come back was that yes, I was afraid, or I truly wanted this outcome, then I knew that was all it was. It was only my desire or fear speaking. But there were times that I would get an answer back that told me this is not fear, this is not desire—this is something more. It was a deep feeling within me. It was strong and powerful, where my emotions were often meek and afraid and full of doubt.
Sometimes when my emotions were in the mix, I realized I couldn’t come to a determination, so I had to walk away until my emotions subsided. But I would persevere and continue until I knew I was dealing with my intuition.
Just this last spring, I learned that fear or desire can also stop me (or you) from acting on intuition, which is equally important. I had never realized this before! This could save your life. I had a flight response at a dentist’s office, but the fear of having to put myself in that same position again caused me to dangerously override my intuition. If you want to hear the story, ask me and I’ll share it in another post. It was heart-throbbing!
Understanding Rapid Cognition
Have you read Malcolm Gladwell’s book Blink? If not, you might want to. It’s a great book to get you to start thinking about what you don’t consciously think about. In it, Gladwell talks about rapid cognition. He gives the example of a near-miss car crash. You’ve probably experienced it before: Out of the blue, something happens, and you have a split-second to react, and if you don’t, you’ll die. Well, you don’t sit there and rationally think through everything. If you did, you’d die.
Instead, your mind and body responds, and then after you have survived, your conscious brain tunes into it all, and you suddenly realize the magnitude of it all. It isn’t until it is all over that you begin to shake and realize you could have just died. How does this happen?
Intuition Disconnect
For those of you who feel a disconnect with your intuitive sense, there are many websites out there that offer suggestions to help you connect to your intuition. Here are just a few:
And this last article was the most amazing!! When I finished the article, I realized that my intuition was spot-on, once again. Read this article; and simply by doing so, you will likely test your intuition. Go ahead—give it a try.
How did you do? Are you surprised?
Truly, there is mystery behind the science of our brains. How can that be?! I don’t know the answer, but I am certainly a believer in the power of what we don’t yet understand.
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