Teaching Mr. Eyes
It was funny last weekend. Mr. Eyes and I were sitting outside enjoying the last bit of nice weather before winter’s fury hits. We were relishing the fainter sun of fall as it is low in the sky all day where I live now.
I wasn’t feeling well and told Mr. Eyes. It was about two minutes later when he asked me, do you want to help me do a specific chore.
I sat there for a minute, pondering that it needed to be done and that he needed me, but I didn’t really want to do it. I spoke up after my thoughts and said, “If you want.”
Sitting beside me, Mr. Eyes said, you don’t really want to do it, do you? As you spoke the words if you want, you shook your head no.
I was not conscious I had done that!!! I was shocked, but knew he was right on the money. He pointed it out fast enough, too, that I could still feel myself doing it, though at the time I had stopped the motion. I was being called out on a subconscious leak!!
I thought it was cool he pointed that out. He was right on the money, but knowing he needed my help and the weather wasn’t going to get any better and the chore required outside work, I decided to help him and when I answered him, I genuinely wanted to help him, but I didn’t feel up to doing it!!! I was contradicted inside.
That is fascinating because if you watched me and judged me, you might think I didn’t want to help him and I was saying empty words, but I wasn’t. I did want to help him, but I didn’t feel up to doing it.
Are you aware of what you leak out?
Does this affect how you might interpret a head shake in the future? It was a learning experience for me!
Rubbing Hands
I sat down to eat dinner the other night. I made my husband his favorite — roasted tomatoes with linguine. He sat down and for the first time in a long time, he rubbed his hands together. I grinned and said to him, “You know what that means?” He looked at me and smiled. I said it means you are really excited about what you are going to eat, it’s like your hands are salivating for you!”
When people do that gesture, it usually means they are very excited and happy about what is before them. It could also mean they have cold hands.
Your Opinion (Poll): Facial Expressions
Yesterday USA Today reported that Blago was warned to stop making gestures and facial expressions during his trial, which started last week.
Imagine for a minute that you are one of the jurors in the trial, and you saw Blago making facial expressions to words spoken (rolling eyes, shaking his head, showing disbelief), and gesturing (such as a waving his hand downward indicating that’s nonsense).
How would that impact your opinion of him?
I have a feeling of how Blago’s behavior will impact his credibility, but I’d like to hear from you. I will share my thoughts in the comment section in the next few days. Click on the labels to read my thoughts about Blago.
My Thoughts: Body Language of the Ministers
When I watch David Cameron speak in the first eight minutes, the body language between the two men is absolutely friendly and open. Both men turn their torso and shoulders towards the other, which suggests openness. They face each other at times, too.
David Cameron’s firm hand is a sign of his seriousness as he speaks. It signifies a tension, I believe, that he wants to get his message across with conviction. You see this further when Cameron makes a fist as he talks to emphasize what he is saying. Clegg also does similar gestures.
Other times, Cameron’s body actually moves slightly up and forward as if he has lifted the heels off the ground. It’s further evidence of the conviction of his statement here.
Nick Clegg listens intently to what Cameron says at 1:42 and when he lifts his head up and back, he is thinking about what Cameron has said. Both look directly at the other one speaking and at times acknowledge what the other has said.
Clegg’s voice has more tension to it than Cameron. Cameron is more flowing, and a better speaker, if you ask me. Clegg brings his emotions into his message, and it gives his speech a tone to it than Cameron didn’t have, but it also shows the seriousness of getting his message across. By his tone, I would speculate that he is more emotionally invested at this point.
Overall, as they spoke, their body language, in my opinion, was supportive of what they were saying and did not conflict their statements or show a dislike for the other person.
Body language is so different than deception detection, yet the two are tightly woven. You really need to have a firm understand of the first to understand the latter, but body language is very fluid. It changes minute by minute, whereas deception, once it occurs, get set in stone and becomes rock solid until a confession is made. Body language, however, may say one thing now and can contradict itself minutes, hours or days later. It can only be counted on for the time it is expressed. It cannot convey long term outcomes or beliefs, as they are subject to change continually.
I stopped my review at 8:00 minutes. If anyone has any interesting segments they saw after that and would like my opinion, please post it below.
