Jordan Rodgers Facial Expression

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On the Bachelorette last night, Jojo chose Jordan, but before she did, she told him that she was upset and disappointed he didn’t ask her dad for her hand in marriage.  When Jojo questioned Jordan, he made the expression of contempt over and over and over again (not shown above).

Did you know that the Gottman Institute says contempt is the biggest predictor of divorce in a relationship?  It’s true.

Furthermore, when Jordan kept making contempt expressions at Jojo, he wasn’t showing love, compassion or understanding. Instead, his facial expressions told you how he really felt! He looked down upon Jojo with an air of superiority.  If I were to have witnessed that behavior, I would have immediately cautioned Jojo.

But Jordan showed other warning signs as well that he wasn’t truly into Jojo.  The odds they will stay in a relationship, as with most relationships formed on the Bachelorette, are very, very low. But even more so with Jordan’s expressions during a time that should have been one of the best time of their relationship!

Did you catch Jordan’s contempt expressions?

By not seeing them, you are missing a wealth of information!  This is only one way I see how people are sincere. There are many more. Have you considered attending my class in Milwaukee in October?

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A contemptuous Amanda Knox

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In this video above, Amanda Knox expresses contempt several times.  This expression does not provide us with information as to innocence or guilt as there are many reasons why people make this expression, but its interesting nonetheless.

My position on Amanda Knox:  I don’t believe she has leveled with us about what she knows happened that night.  I suspect she was high and not clear minded and doesn’t want to admit to what she knows because it is likely a foggy memory.

Amanda originally said, “Patrick and Meredith were in Meredith’s room while I stayed in the kitchen. I can’t remember how long they were together in the room, but I can only say that at a certain point I heard Meredith screaming and I was scared so I covered my ears. After that, I don’t remember everything, my head is very confused.”

While I believe Amanda isn’t 100% forthright in the statement above, I do believe Amanda was there that night for at least part of it.  That is all I can say.

In the news…

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I was reading the news tonight and I saw this photo of Matthew Warren.  He was the son of the well known Evangelical pastor Rick Warren. He has sadly committed suicide.

When I saw this photo, I was immediately taken back. Was this photo was given to the media by his family’s church?  Credit in the media goes to Saddleback Church.   I couldn’t help but wonder who took the photo because Matthew is clearly displaying contempt at the person taking the photo.  Contempt is a dislike, a disdain.

Had they known this and were able to verbalize that he felt this way, could the people in his life have dug deeper to find out why he felt the way he did?  Perhaps he felt alone and misunderstood.  I suspect they didn’t know that this is what this photo demonstrated because if they had, would it made it out to the media? 

Perhaps this is a wake up call for all of us to explore when someone feels such a strong emotion towards someone.  Why they are feeling it? Can we open up dialogue?  Can we help?  Can we dig deeper and try to understand?  Could it help a person on the brink?  Perhaps.

I’m not saying that people didn’t care or probe for Matthew.  The church says he had mental issues and suicidal thoughts.  They may very well have probed, but it gives you pause when you see this expression to consider it next time someone expresses contempt at you.  Why are they feeling this way?  Can you help them?

Of course, contempt can have many sources for its expression and many may not be any concern at all and there may be nothing you can do, but next time I see it in someone who is disconnected, it will give me pause.  Are they truly okay?