Why some liars don’t stop lying

Here is an article for you from Michael Toebe.  He interviewed me a while back and has published his article.

Enjoy!

Cosby Finally Exposed

It’s good to finally see Cosby exposed for the liar he is.  From day one when I heard these accusations, I called him out!

May this open the door for these women to sue Cosby civilly.

Cosby attorneys are saying that Cosby was just confused. I think everyone sees that is just an attempt to push this away again, but I don’t think its going to work.

Shanesha Taylor Leaves Kids in Hot Car

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Shanesha Taylor claims desperation as the reason she left her kids in the car in Arizona when she went into a job interview. She left two very young children, 2-years and 6 months, in their car seats with the windows cracked only an inch with the keys in the ignition. When the children were rescued, it was already 100 degrees inside the car.

This week prosecutors dropped felony charges, if she attended programs for parenting and substance abuse.

I am troubled by Shanesha’s responses in this interview. The way Shanesha talks about the babysitter and the reason she didn’t have one is hot for me. You can clearly see her speech patterns change, and what I call “thinking-on-her-feet behavior”. She doesn’t appear to be recollecting what actually happened. This is a huge red flag.

I seriously question if she ever had a babysitter.

When Matt Lauer asks Shanesha, “Despite the circumstances, did you act reasonably and responsibly?”

Listen to Shanesha’s response.

She says “That’s a difficult question”.

What??

I can understand she may have made a bad decisions because of stress, but I don’t understand not owning up to it now–especially considering she is getting a second chance!

She doesn’t yet own what she did was dangerous, and furthermore her answer shows no emotional compassion (regret/remorse) that she nearly killed her kids with her poor decision making at a supposed time of “crisis”.

With this response, I am worried for Shanesha’s children. People only make changes when they are willing to own up to their shortcomings and claim the errors that they made. No one is perfect, but given a second chance if she cannot clearly see what she did was the wrong choice, she has a high propensity to make the same decision again, and this next time could cost her children’s lives.

I am also sad that so many people stood up to help her when she shows no remorse or compassion for her children, the danger she put them in, and for her bad judgements.

Are moms good at spotting lies?

If you didn’t see Dateline on Sunday night, and you are a parent of a teenager, I highly recommend it. If there is one group of people who I meet who consistently tell me they are good at spotting lies, its moms. They watch their children lie and feel confidentially they can call it out, but in the presence of many, I can tell you they don’t see the clues as often as they think they do, and often misjudge the situation.

Here is an interesting article from Psychology Today: Is Your Teen Trustworthy? Can you Tell?

Quoted from the article:

  • 57% of the time mothers believed that adolescents were telling the truth, teens really were
  • 33% of the time mothers believed adolescents were lying, teens said they were telling the truth

What do you think? Do you trust your teenager not to get in a car with a drunk driver?