Today is a record-breaking day for “Eyes for Lies Blog”. We are surpassing our highest visitor count in one day, all before 2:00 PM today. We have another ten hours to go.
So far today, we’ve had 2,287 unique visitors, 5,012 page loads, and 146 returning visitors!
Just thought you’d like to know.
Update:
We broke all visitor record! The final tally for the day:
Ted Haggard was on Oprah this week. Did you see him? It was an interesting show. If you missed it, the entire show is on YouTube in four parts.
Read moreHaggard tells us that he is, in his own words, “not gay”, and that he is a “…heterosexual male with homosexual attachments,” according to his “first” psychologist. He doesn’t inform us what the other consulted psychologists have said. It sure does make you wonder, doesn’t it?
Haggard also tells us that he still faces temptation, but he no longer feels the need to be “compulsive”; in other words, act on his desires, simply because, he says, he has come forward with the truth and is speaking openly about it now.
Does that make sense to anyone?
Has anyone ever been cured of temptation because they confessed to their desire?
It sounds like the fancy language of denial to me, personally. Or, maybe Haggard is testing the waters to see how people respond to the word “homosexual”?
I don’t disagree with Haggard that he has an internal struggle going on inside himself right now, because having homosexual desires, and being an Evangelical pastor don’t go hand-in-hand. They are fundamentally at odds.
I personally don’t think we’ve seen the last of this story yet. There is likely going to be another chapter. Whatever chapter unfolds, I only hope it doesn’t harm other peoples’ lives again.
I truly hope that Haggard finds the strength, the courage and the fortitude to embrace who he really is. When we accept ourselves as we are, we find true happiness, and only then can we truly be our authentic selves.
Here is your forum. Do you have a question? Feel free to ask it!
One reader today asked me if I could discern if someone was lying by watching a video of them, even though I couldn’t understand the language spoken. The reader believed that because the person was calm, and relaxed, that this indicated they were not lying.
The answer to their question was no, you cannot use body language alone (any body language) to conclusively identify if someone is honest or deceptive. It simply cannot be done, and is dangerous to do.
It’s not all about expressions. Language does matter. Emotions matter. Words matter. Facts matter. Behavior matters. The show “Lie to Me” isn’t explaining the nuances of this ability very well.
It’s also important that people realize there is not one universal clue that can be applied “across the board” to spot deception. Not one. What one person does when he is lying, another will do when he is honest. There is always an exception to every clue. Always. That’s what makes deception detection so hard for the average person, because this is not about clues. It is about understanding human behavior, to the core.
Deception detection is more about the sum of inconsistencies, and the sum in total indicates deception. This is so important, and clearly not being communicated on “Lie to Me”. Microexpressions, and the other clues shown on the show, are used in the process of discerning a lie, but they are not conclusive of anything in and of themselves, outside of indicating a person’s emotional state of mind (which will just provide you with a clue).
Today on Oprah, Ted Haggard is speaking out. If you go to Oprah.com, and look at the preview of the show, it should be interesting. She is asking some great questions!
The AP also released this video yesterday of a young man who formerly attended Haggard’s New Life Church.
Tune back later this week for my thoughts. In the meantime, you can read about my previous thoughts about Haggard. Did you know the first time I saw him, I just didn’t trust him? It was his fake smile that never ended that clued me in that this guy had big secrets! That’s always a big tip-off to anyone. When someone keeps a fake smile plastered on their face through everything they say, it’s a good indication what you are being told is being sugar-coated, in a big, big way!
Roy Kronk is the big mystery man this week. Is he being honest with us or not? Click on the image below to see the video.
Here are three of the four 911 calls Kronk made as well. You can follow the links to listen to them as well.
READ MOREWhen I listen to the 911 calls, I don’t hear anything that tips me off or concerns me. I don’t hear a man who is nervous or who sounds like he is acting, or making up a story. And when I watch Kronk on GMA, I also get the sense he is sincere.
I’m a little bit perplexed by Kronk’s persistence with the police if he didn’t get close to the bag prior to December 11th. If he didn’t know anything conclusive (i.e., investigate it more than he is saying), why didn’t he just brush it off and forget about it? This raises my eyebrows and leaves me wanting to ask more questions, but nothing more.
I keep wondering if Kronk smelled the smell of death that day in August as he and his co-worker stood by the side of the road catching some shade, and that strong smell is what led Kronk to investigate the area further, and led him to spot the bag. What he did from there, I don’t know.
Who thinks of the smell of death, and concealing that smell in a decaying swamp?
Have you ever thought about that?
It’s rather unusual. Then again, it may not mean anything. He may have just added up the pieces, and knew that the bag and the “white” material underneath was not good one way or another.
I will stand on this: I do not think Kronk knew the Anthonys or had any contact with them. I also believe Kronk when he says he had nothing to do with Caylee’s disappearance. I believe Kronk when he says that.
