Dr. Phil had Nick Gordon on a few days back. This time, unlike the last, Nick Gordon wasn’t under the influence of drugs and alcohol.
Did you get to see it?
Gordon was home with some friends when Bobbi Kristina Brown was critically injured in her bathtub and as you know, she died of her injuries.
Gordon tells his story of what happened.
Do you believe him?
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It was the story of Alexander and Emily Fazzino. Emily, 32, went to take a bath, according to her husband Alexander. He said about 30 minutes after she went up to take a bath, he still heard the water running. So he went to check on his wife. He found her in the bathtub purple, with her tongue swollen.
Alexander was arrested and charged with Emily’s murder. He went to trial, and was found not guilty.
After watching the show, I found this article to share some very interesting facts.
What do you think? Do you think Alexander is innocent or do you think he is lying?
I think there is some fascinating elements to this case.
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On May 3, I posted this photo and asked people what they saw when they looked at this expression. I also asked, “If a person did this after you asked them a question, would you think they are lying because they are covering their mouth?”
This is not a universal expression of emotion. It’s just one of many, many facial expressions we make as humans, and while it shows a negative response–that’s about all we can say. There is not enough information to determine anything else.
Some of the potentials one could simply speculate at without forming an opinion would be:
–Thought of something startling, uncomfortable, displeasing
–Tasted something displeasing or possibly burped up something unpleasant
–Saw someone do something unpleasant
–Has a feeling of disbelief over hearing some news, conversation–or seeing a behavior (theft?)
The list could on with other examples, too.
We can’t determine much from this picture other than she felt something negative until we got more information. If I saw a person reacting like this, I would simply say, “Are you okay?” and let the person provide more information.
Now, if you ask someone a question and they give you this response, I do not believe covering the hand over one’s mouth signifies lying. We cover our mouths for many reasons from shock to disbelief to surprise.
A reaction like this could also be as simple as this woman remembering she was supposed to be somewhere, and forgot–totally unrelated to anything anyone said!
While we can see an emotion or expression displayed on someone’s face, we can never be sure of why until we dig deeper.
What do you see when you look at this expression? If a person did this after you asked them a question, would you think they are lying because they are covering their mouth?
Check back for my thoughts towards the end of the week!
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Is there really a right and a wrong in our lives, in how we make decisions?
In my last post, I asked people. I put up a poll and 80%, 69 people voted yes they believe there is a right and a wrong. Five people (6%) voted “Absolutely not!”, and the last 14% were undecided.
I found that fascinating.
Considering I have written a lot about murder, I am not surprised by the answers. And yet I am very surprised.
In my younger years, I would have argued with you vehemently that there is a right and a wrong, but I have seen otherwise lately.
We live by many rules and laws in our society that guide our choices in how we act in life. These, in simple terms, define what is acceptable in our society and what is not.
For example, it is not acceptable to steal from people, harm, injure or kill them. But we still do kill people in society, right? We still implement capital punishment in the U.S. and other countries. We have “moral” justifications as to why we shouldn’t do it, but then there are times when we believe it is okay to do it. And people argue both sides of that debate–that we should kill and that we shouldn’t kill.
We believe in the laws because they protect people. They give people the right to life, liberty and in some places the right to pursue happiness. Each country, however, has different values.
Some people find they are guided by right and wrong by their religious values, by their belief in God, and other people decide right and wrong based on their internal value system, or a system of compassion.
But how do we truly know what is right and wrong? Can we ever know?
If I decide something is right for me, how can I say it is right for you?
What guides you in making that determination? Who is the ultimate determining factor of the “right” decision?
We all have different beliefs and values.
I used to think there was a “right way” for someone to do a task, behave, respond, etc. if they cared about me. Now I am not so quick to make a judgement. Now I realize, there is my way and their way, and neither are right or wrong. There are just two possibilities.
This change in my paradigm has greatly opened up the world I live in. It’s more beautiful and more lovely than before. It’s not near as black and white. It has changed my relationships considerably, too.
I do believe in protecting life, giving people equal opportunity, fostering safe environments and being compassionate, but those are my beliefs on right and wrong. What are yours?
If this concept is new to you, here is some interesting reading for you.
