A Word of Caution

What is so fascinating about the Bruce Mullenix in the video is his body language when he speaks. After Erin Moriarty says Bruce had a “rock solid alibi” the night of the murder, if you only watched Bruce’s body language and tried to discern if he was honest or not here, you would likely conclude Bruce was being deceptive. He shakes his head no when he says yes, and he shrugs his shoulders when he says “Yeah, and I knew that” to Erin Moriarty.

Read moreYet Bruce is NOT lying here. If you thought he was, you’d be clearly mistaken.

The reason I point this out is because there is not one universal clue to deception, and I want people to see this conclusively. Yes, shrugging of the shoulder, or shaking of the head opposite to verbal clues can indicate deception, but when you see it, it doesn’t always mean that someone is being deceptive.

We know that what Bruce is saying here is the truth. The police made him a suspect, their number one suspect at the time, and cleared him. Bruce Mullenix was also out of town when his ex-wife, Barbara, was murdered. And to back it all up, I believed Bruce when I saw him talk. His behaviors were very consistent with what he was saying to me.

Well, how could that be, you ask?

For me, deception detection is not all about the clues. I can’t stress that enough. For me, when I look at a person, I have an immediate sense of their personality. I don’t know if it is facial features, or expressions, but I can usually tell people many facts about a stranger with stunning accuracy, without ever saying a word to them — by simply looking at them, or a photo of them (see what I call paralleling). With that, I listen to what a person says, to see if it matches their personality type, and their typical, expected behavior. That’s how I come to the conclusion whether someone’s behavior is natural and honest, or deceptive, much of the time. The clues only come as supportive evidence for me.

Dr. Maureen O’Sullivan says it best when she says, “They [wizards otherwise known as naturals] seem to have templates of people that they use to make sense of the behavioural deviations they observe… So it is not a set of disembodied cues, but embedded behaviours that are consistent with each other as well as with the kind of person exhibiting them (source).”

So next time you spot a clue to deception, don’t be quick to call someone a liar by one or two clues alone. The process is a lot more complex than what it appears on the surface. I personally recommend focusing on the facts and looking for inconsistencies, first. That will be much more reliable and trustworthy for the average person. Had we done that in this case as well, Bruce would have been cleared quickly, and focus would have fallen where it should, on Rachael Mullenix and Ian Allen.

What do you think of this?

In this video, Bruce Mullinex talks about his alibi. What do you make of his body language?

Video from CBS 48 Hours Mystery: Lady in the Harbor
(permission granted from CBS)

To see my thoughts, click here.

Help: I’ve never uploaded a video before with blogger. How come it has the video window and a picture of it below? I can’t seem to get rid of the picture below. Weird. Help!

More Details About The Karissa Boudreau Case

A reader just sent me this article. It’s hard to read. It’s unfathomable that a mother could do this to her child. It’s chilling, so please be advised. Here is another, even more graphic one.

For those who are new this blog, I called Penny Boudreau out the day I saw her plea for her daughter’s return on TV. Nothing about her plea sat right with me. You can read it here. To read all my thoughts on this case, click on the labels below.

Record-breaking Day

Today is a record-breaking day for “Eyes for Lies Blog”. We are surpassing our highest visitor count in one day, all before 2:00 PM today. We have another ten hours to go.

So far today, we’ve had 2,287 unique visitors, 5,012 page loads, and 146 returning visitors!

Just thought you’d like to know.

Update:
We broke all visitor record! The final tally for the day:

  • 10,148 page loads
  • 4,595 unique visitors
  • 320 returning visitors

My Thoughts on Ted Haggard

Ted Haggard was on Oprah this week. Did you see him? It was an interesting show. If you missed it, the entire show is on YouTube in four parts.

Read moreHaggard tells us that he is, in his own words, “not gay”, and that he is a “…heterosexual male with homosexual attachments,” according to his “first” psychologist. He doesn’t inform us what the other consulted psychologists have said. It sure does make you wonder, doesn’t it?

Haggard also tells us that he still faces temptation, but he no longer feels the need to be “compulsive”; in other words, act on his desires, simply because, he says, he has come forward with the truth and is speaking openly about it now.

Does that make sense to anyone?

Has anyone ever been cured of temptation because they confessed to their desire?

It sounds like the fancy language of denial to me, personally. Or, maybe Haggard is testing the waters to see how people respond to the word “homosexual”?

I don’t disagree with Haggard that he has an internal struggle going on inside himself right now, because having homosexual desires, and being an Evangelical pastor don’t go hand-in-hand. They are fundamentally at odds.

I personally don’t think we’ve seen the last of this story yet. There is likely going to be another chapter. Whatever chapter unfolds, I only hope it doesn’t harm other peoples’ lives again.

I truly hope that Haggard finds the strength, the courage and the fortitude to embrace who he really is. When we accept ourselves as we are, we find true happiness, and only then can we truly be our authentic selves.