The Human Footprint

National Geographic aired a show this week called The Human Footprint. The show is about how much we each consume, and how that consumption impacts our planet. It’s a bit overwhelming to say the least.

Elizabeth Vargas narrates the show, and babbles out an overwhelming number of statistics like the average number of oranges you will eat in a lifetime will be 12,888. And then she shows you just how staggering this amount is by dropping 12,888 oranges into a living room!

Did you know it takes 43 trees to make the newspaper one person reads in a lifetime?

Or that it takes crude oil to make diapers?

How about the fact that by the time you buy your new jeans, they have likely traveled 17,000 miles before you even put them on? How’s that for impacting the planet?

The show also said that the average person will get to know 1700 people in their lifetime.

That means in your entire lifetime, you will likely have only met two or three people who have the ability to spot deception like I do.

DP Talks to LK Live

Thanks for all the votes requesting a review of the Drew Peterson interview.
I was rather surprised by the results of the poll.

The overall interview by Drew Peterson was quite lackluster compared to his previous interviews. Two words kept coming to mind through the entire interview: stone-faced. Drew was a blank slate emotionally through much of the interview this time. This time he held his grimaces and smirks in check a whole lot better. That’s not to say that we didn’t see some classic arrogance from Drew, or a few odd smirks, but he has dramatically tamed his responses.

Read moreClearly Drew is working hard to change his image, and wants us to believe he is the good guy despite the fact that everyone from Drew’s past who has come forward doesn’t have a nice thing to say about him except his friend Steve. The odds are clearly stacked against him.

Listen to how Drew responds…

KING: Drew, you’re a bright guy. Do you begin to think that the public might say that if it looks like a duck and it acts like a duck, it might be a duck?

PETERSON: Right, but they’re not getting all the duck’s information. So when they get all the information, then maybe we can re-examine that.

KING: All right, let’s straighten it out. The third wife.

PETERSON: OK.

Do you think Drew will be satisfied this time that he gave us the real story? Hasn’t he had ample opportunity in front of the camera to tell us his side of the story?

The media even gave him a video camera to give us a day in the life of Drew, and that didn’t satisfy him either? I found his answer to this question ridiculous. Drew’s had plenty of opportunity to tell us his version of events.

Furthermore, Drew tells us that media only wants to portray him as sinister because sinister sells. He goes on to say that anything that is said that is positive about him is “washed under blankets”.

With that, I have to ask why he isn’t using the funds he raised, and the website he has, DefendDrew.com (which is now inactive), to tell his side of the story, and to post all the positives about which he speaks? He has all the freedom in the world to post his version of events. Why isn’t he? Instead, he only complains.

I also found it odd when Drew said the following statement to King about Kathleen Savio:

KING: What happened?

PETERSON: I don’t know. I don’t know. She…we got information that she drowned in the bathtub.

Drew talks like he wasn’t there. I found this choice of words odd. Drew often lack affirmative answers when he should feel definitive which is red flag.

Below King asks Drew about his marriage when Stacy disappeared:

PETERSON: We were living together and we talked that morning. And what happened…

KING: Was it — was the marriage going through problems?

PETERSON: The marriage had been going through problems since her sister died. And her sister died maybe several months prior of cancer. And it was a very rough death on the family. And it was very rough on Stacy. Stacy was very close to her sister, Tina. And when Tina died, it was…

(Drew got stuck for words here, and then King saved him! I wish he didn’t do that!)

KING: She changed?

Drew’s answer here is a complete contradiction to his first responses to the media after Stacy disappeared. Drew was quoted by the Chicago Sun-Times as saying within days of Stacy’s disappearance “I believed our marriage was good, but maybe she didn’t.” Then when he went on the Today show with Matt Lauer, Drew gave us the whole new story that Stacy changed after her sister died. That wasn’t his original story.

I found Drew’s volunteer information about being a police officer below really eerie. He was talking to King about Stacy, and King had asked if he was ever physical with her. Drew answers the questions completely stone-faced, but what lead him to the following train of thought below? Often times people’s mind wonders to familiar places…

PETERSON: And I don’t work for the phone company or the power company. And as a police officer, we don’t have the same ability to do things as the common person. If I get involved in a domestic situation where I’m physical with a wife, I’ll lose my job. And I would never even care to even come close to risking that. And I kind of challenge anybody out there to find anybody that has ever even seen me mad. So…

In a situation like this where Drew was about to retire, if he did in fact lose his temper, and lash out at Stacy, and she threatened to go forward with charges, wouldn’t this be a potential motive for why he might do something to Stacy? If Stacy spoke about abuse and could substantiate it, she could have destroyed his retirement, and generous pension!

I also found the words “kind of” telling in the paragraph spoken by Drew above. He kind of challenges anybody out there to find anybody that has ever seen him mad. Drew clearly knows there are people speaking out about this now, but he doesn’t want to hear it. Instead he just badmouths them, too.

Furthermore, I found Drew’s statement and word choices odd when he says that the police “don’t have the same ability to do things as the common person.” Is it an ability to strike a spouse? Or is that abuse? Notice Drew’s choice of words here. It’s quite unique. It tells us of his mindset. Most police officers wouldn’t find this a lack of an “ability”.

I got quite annoyed with Drew when he says he didn’t want to badmouth his step-brother*, and yet he does just that. He also goes after his ex-finance* Piry, and his neighbor too, trying to paint everyone black as black, and yet he wants us to continue thinking he is a rose. Does he not see his thorns? I don’t believe a word he says about these people.

I also don’t believe that Drew has no temper, doesn’t get angry or that he was never physical with Stacy. It’s nonsense, pure and simple.

King also asked Drew why he thought Stacy might leave and Drew responded “Stacy loves male attention.”

I’ve learned over the years that people who are less than honest will often project their own feelings, emotions, beliefs and actions onto other people. And ironically, a little while in the interview, Drew says the following about himself:

KING: You said in the past you have cheated on your wives, except for Stacy, right?

PETERSON: Everybody says I cheated, but I went out and sought female attention elsewhere after the marriages were over. But we were still legally married. So technically I cheated.

(…)

KING: Would it shock you that she was involved with someone else?

PETERSON: (long pause, thinking)…Not really. Like I say, Stacy loves male attention.

And anytime we would be anywhere, she would have to be the center of attention for the males on the scene — older, younger, anyone.

Isn’t Drew talking about himself here? I do not believe this definition would fit Stacy’s character.

When King gets into the details about how Stacy left, I find Drew’s answer lacking. Most people when they recall the last time they spoke to a loved one usually give us details and descriptions. They share words exchanged, etc. Notice how Drew doesn’t do this, nor has he ever.

KING: Who called you?

PETERSON: Stacy called me.

KING: And?

PETERSON: She told me she found somebody else and she was leaving.

KING: She left under those circumstances, good-bye, Drew.

PETERSON: Right. Correct.

KING: What about the children?

PETERSON: Didn’t say much about them.

KING: Didn’t say much about them? She was taking them? Not taking them?

PETERSON: Didn’t say. There were at home with me, and she didn’t say anything about them during the phone call.

I find the word choice “much” interesting here. She either did or did not speak about the kids, if she even talked. When people are dishonest they often throw in hedge words like “much”, “sort of”, or “kind of”. I don’t believe they even do it consciously.

I found the following quite interesting as well. It was the only place that Drew Peterson got choked up with his emotions.

KING: We have an e-mail question from Fay in Rocky Mountain, North Carolina: “How do you sleep at night?” Do you sleep well, or are you bothered by at least some aspect of this?

PETERSON: I’m bothered by the fact that she left. And I’m bothered by the fact that my children don’t have a mom. I’m raising a little girl who needs female attention. And, yes, sometimes I have trouble sleeping with it.

This is where Drew grabbed his ear with his hand and tugged it slightly. He grabs it at the end of the statement. Some people would tell you that touching one’s face or ear is a sign of deception. I can’t think of one instance where this has proven true for me.

On the contrary, Drew really believed what he said here. I think he is truly bothered that his children don’t have a mom, and that he is raising a girl who needs a mom. I believe that is his truth. In the pain of it, he became overwhelmed, and that overwhelming feeling I suspect made him self-conscious, and hence that is why I believe he touched his ear at the end. It was a sign of vulnerability from showing his true emotions. He quickly shook it off.

If one were to suspect that Drew killed Stacy, it would not be out of line that now in hindsight that he may regret that his children don’t have a mom, and that he is now left to do her job. It’s completely logical…especially if this was a crime of passion.

I was quite surprised that Drew took the kids and went to Disneyland. Did that surprise anyone else?

As many of you know, I do not critique attorneys because I believe everyone deserves the right to a legal defense, and with that, Drew is no exception.

Do I trust Drew Peterson? I do not, and have not since Drew first said “I believe she’s not missing” within hours of when Stacy disappeared. Those five words were my first big red flag that something wasn’t right.

(*Corrections made 4-16-2008)

Poll: Drew Peterson

UPDATE April 13th 11:20 am:
With the overwhelming response for the Drew Peterson interview, I will share my thoughts soon. I would have normally written up a post by now, but my dog is sick, and I am too worried about her to focus. Please be patient with me.

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Drew Peterson is scheduled to be on Larry King Live tonight. The show is taking questions from viewers now.

A reader has asked me to share my thoughts on this interview. I normally wouldn’t have taken interest in this because I’ve shared my beliefs about Drew Peterson, but sometimes my readers surprise me wanting more than one critique of people. So with that, I ask you:


Randy Pausch Thoughts

Randy Pausch was featured in a prime time special last night on ABC. Did you see it?

If you don’t know Randy Pausch, he is someone worth getting to know. If you do already know who he is than you know one of the most amazing people of our time, and you don’t need me to tell you that!

Last night on the show, Randy said if he had to give one piece of advice to anyone, it would be:

Tell the Truth

If I had to give them a second piece of advice, it would be:

All the Time

I thought that this was really special because Randy has shared so much in the way of wonderful advice in his famous Last Lecture, and for these two things to rank so high was amazing to me.

To see and learn more about Randy, click here. At the bottom of the link you will find more links to Randy’s Last Lecture — well worth listening to. You can also read Randy’s online diary here.

Randy’s outlook on life just amazes me. His power, strength, endurance and hope for tomorrow are so inspirational.

Fishy Experience

I found a light for my bathroom a few months back that I liked, but I decided foolishly to wait before purchasing it until we were ready to install it. No need for it to just lay around. You would guess they discontinued it in December.

Considering that December was only a handful of months ago, I decided to see if I could find one online in an off-beat location, or warehouse sitting on shelf. There has to be one, but can I find it?

I am hopeful.

Read moreI spent an hour yesterday calling around, and visiting websites. I called numerous places, but everyone was sold out. I didn’t give up. I know there are some sitting in warehouses somewhere!

Then I found a website that I had run across before using a different search string, and they said they had it in stock! They said on their website they keep all items in stock, and the item would ship in 24-48 hours. But before I got excited, I decided to call them.

They just didn’t have a number listed anywhere where I could reach them at so I emailed them and waited for a response.

It’s not good that they don’t have a phone number. It’s a red flag, but I reasoned in my desire and longing for this light that maybe this is a home run business, and they don’t want calls at all hours of the day. Maybe this business buys discontinued items–that’s why they had them in stock. At least that is what I told myself.

Damn emotions!

So today thinking about the light again and not hearing back from them, I went to the website, and I decided oh-what-the-heck, I’ll just order it and see. If they don’t have it, they won’t charge me. It won’t be the first time this has happened without a hitch.

So I put the light in the online cart, and it asked me to create a new customer account. So I did. That’s when I saw on the registration page my second red flag.

It wanted a shipping address. It read as follows:

Street Address:
Suburb:
Post Code:
City:
State/Province:
Country:

What?

We don’t enter our address in this format in the U.S. Clearly, this is now hinting to be a company overseas acting as if they are an American company. Yet, when you pulled down country option, there was only one selection for the United States, and they had an American fax number.

Hmmm…

It was fishy.

Then below that, it showed shipping charges of $69.00 labeled as “Best Way”. There was no other explanation for shipping provided. I was looking at small vanity light. Clearly, the shipping charge was insane.

I knew I was being had, and now they already had my real name and e-mail address. I am a bit unnerved. I went back in to see if I could modify my account, and I could so I added in all bogus information deleting anything personal I could find. How scary!

I then went to check out who owns the IP address, and while they give a Wilmington, Delaware address, and have an American contact whose name is foreign, they write their phone number like this:

+1 1232342123

That’s how they do it overseas. Bah!

Clearly, my emotions and desires were leading me astray. I wanted that damn light, and I was overruling important messages. I wasn’t listening to the signals I was getting when clearly I should have! I am so happy I never gave any credit card information.

Emotions are our biggest derailment to seeing the truth for what it is.

And now, two hours later, I found the light in-stock in a store 30 miles from me. How about that? I did it. Safely. Whew!

Keep those emotions for desires and wants in check, or you are bound to have regrets sooner or later. I think I came close to having my own regrets today!