Personality: All on Your Face? (CNN)

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CNN has a fascinating article today on its front page titled Personality Plain as the Nose on Your Face?

I am a strong believer that our faces reveal a lot of information about who we are. I have never heard of personology before, but apparently they have a methodology of their own.

I always call what I do with reading faces, paralleling.

Note: I am thinking of doing some facial feature reading as a side project. If you want me to share with you what I see when I look at your face, leave a comment with your e-mail below. I believe facial features reveal things about our personality. This is nothing super-natural or psychic.

Dating or Married to a Liar?

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So many people come to my website because they type in the word liar, and are looking for help because they suspect, or have discovered that someone is deceiving them.

If this is you, I recommend two websites to help you understand deception in relationships. The first I have mentioned before: Truth About Deception. The second one I would like to recommend is called LoveFraud.com. Both of these websites should be helpful for people who struggle with lying in a relationship.

Read moreLoveFraud.com is a website and a blog written by a woman, Donna Andersen, who is a freelance writer from New Jersey. She married a sociopath, and has now dedicated a fair amount of her time to write and maintain this website (and subsequent blog) about sociopaths.

Andersen explains sociopaths in depth, and furthermore, she shares with us her own personal experience with a sociopath, but that is just the tip of the iceberg for this website. Andersen provides great links, research and other personal stories and encounters from other victims of sociopaths. She even has a psychiatrist on her blog who is available for questions, and who writes posts.

Do you think you’ve ever met a sociopath (or psychopath)?

I’ve asked this question to many people, and I am amazed at the response I get. “No, and I don’t want to. ” The reality is we all have met psychopaths, but most likely didn’t know it.

Psychopaths aren’t people who are raged filled, and ready to murder the next person who walks into their trap. Instead, these people are usually exceptional manipulators who can smooth talk the best of us into weaving pieces of their intricate web of deception for them without us being any wiser.

If you haven’t checked out Donna Andersen’s website, I highly recommend it. It’s packed with very useful information, and if you are personally involved with someone who lies a lot, perhaps this information will be valuable for you. It could save you from a lot of heartache, and as Donna says, it could save your life.

Andersen also writes:

Dr. Hare (an international expert on sociopaths) estimates that 1% of the people in North America are born sociopaths. If the percentage holds true for the entire world, in a global population of 6.5 billion there are 65 million sociopaths. With so many around, everyone is bound to cross paths with them sooner or later.

I highly recommend clicking on her side bar topics like Risk Calculator, Quiz: Are you a Target, and How to Spot a Con.

It’s a fascinating read!

Bobby Cutts, Jr: Guilty

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Bobby Cutts, Jr. has been found guilty by a jury after only 21 hours of deliberation. Now, at sentencing, he could face the death penalty.

Watch video here as Cutts is given the verdict. Look at his stoic response. Clearly, it is dramatically different than his sobbing testimony.

Sources: MSNBC and CNN.

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To view my original opinion of Cutts last June, click here.
To view all my posts on Cutts, click on the label Davis/Cutts below.

Bobby Cutts Crying at Trial

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Watch and listen to Bobby Cutts, Jr. cry here.

What do you think?

Read moreDoes it strike you as unusual? Perhaps fake?

At first glance, we don’t see tears, but since the camera isn’t dead-centered on him, we can’t be certain he isn’t tearing up, though I would bet great odds that he is not.

What strikes me as unusual and odd here is how Cutts is crying.

I sat and listened to it for a moment, and I began to see a child cry. You know when children get so upset, and they are nearly hysterical, they cry so hard they can’t breath. When they speak, and cry, the words are broken between involuntarily gasps of air. The body forces the child to breath in the midst of his tantrum, like it or not, and the result in an involuntary stuttering of words.

Well, Cutts seems to be imitating this, doesn’t he? But what is causing Cutts to do this? He isn’t in hysterics, he isn’t out of breath from crying so hard. So why is he stuttering his words?

The only time I have witnessed grown adults displaying this behavior is when they ARE in hysterics due to a trauma, accident or crisis, and that display only lasts in the immediate time surrounding the crisis until they gain their composure. It’s more of a shock response than anything. Once the initial shock wears off, this behavior usually dissipates and doesn’t return.

When was the last time you saw an adult cry and grasp for air like Cutts is here when he or she was not experiencing a trauma, crisis or accident but rather recollecting a traumatic event months down the road?

It’s definitely a red flag.

As for the rest of Bobby Cutts story about what happened, what are the odds that someone would die from an accidental hit in the neck with an elbow? The odds are pretty slim. Wouldn’t football players keel over all the time then? Furthermore, if it was an accident, why did he dispose of her body?

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To read my original opinion of Bobby Cutts, click here.
To read all my posts on Bobby Cutts, click on the Davis/Cutts label below.

“Who Killed the Beauty Queen?”

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Click here for an update on August 24, 2008

Last Saturday night, 48 Hours profiled the case of Nona Dirksmeyer, a 19-year-old pageant queen who was found dead by her boyfriend Kevin Jones. She was murdered.

Jones was with his mother when he discovered her lifeless body, and his mother called 911. Jones wanted to assist the police with the case, but ultimately he ended up getting charged with her murder and faced a trial by jury.

Read moreSeveral of you have asked me, do I believe Kevin Jones in innocent? The jury let Jones go free, but Dirksmeyer’s family believes he is getting away with murder even still.

The police found Jones’ behavior odd on multiple occasions. When they came to the crime scene after the 911 call, Jones went to shake the police detectives hands, but Jones then realized he was covered in blood from trying to revive Dirksmeyer, and so he pulled back his hands. The police found this odd behavior.

I do not. If Jones was a polite man, his manners are a part of his normal behaviors, and they wouldn’t dissipate in a difficult time. This does not raise my eyebrows.

The police also found Jones behavior in the interrogation room suggestive that he could be a violent person. When detectives left the room where Jones was at, he hit the back of the chair he was sitting in hard multiple times. He was angry and visibly upset. Why would he do that? Does it mean he is violent?

If Jones loved Dirksmeyer, and he wasn’t able to protect her, and someone killed her, he may have felt like a failure. He may have felt like he let Nona down even though he wasn’t there when this happened. This is likely an emotional response due to the feelings of being helpless after the fact. That’s what I suspect was going on here. Or he was frustrated that he wasn’t being believed when he was telling the truth. Could his actions be suggestive of violence? They absolutely could, but it is nothing definitive own its own. If there are not any character witnesses to corroborated that Jones had violent behavior, I would discount this, personally.

Jones volunteered to help the police by submitting to DNA tests and by taking a polygraph, but surprisingly he failed the polygraph which only caused police to look at him even closer. Polygraphs, in my eyes, are not reliable so I wouldn’t much too much into this.

At the crime scene, the police believe they found the smoking gun when they found Jones palm print on the light-bulb of the lamp police believe was used to deliver a fatal blow to Dirksmeyer.

I suspect that Jones could have easily grabbed that light-bulb when he found Dirksmeyer and tried to revive her. Perhaps it was in the way? I do not see this as any smoking gun.

Another interesting fact in this case is that at the scene police found a used condom wrapper, and with that, they theorized that Jones found it and went into a rage, and killed Dirksmeyer because Dirksmeyer had been seeing other men behind his back.

Those other men were ruled out by police.

When I watch Jones, I do not see a man who is violent, and while all people have the potential to be violent, he doesn’t hit me as a man who would kill his girlfriend over her finding a condom wrapper. He is more likely the type to buy into a story that Dirksmeyer would make up to cover herself. Jones was a trusting, honest guy as seen by his willingness to assist the police so freely. I also think it would take more than infidelity with his girlfriend to get Jones murderous. He is not a man who has a temper. Those who knew Jones testified to that fact.

Furthermore, the police only checked the condom wrapper for finger prints, but not DNA. They said the lab would only do one or the other but not both because each test could potentially render the other useless. I find that unusual, but I am not a forensic expert. In either case, no finger prints were found.

And the jury? It took less than 2 days to find Jones not guilty, and I agree with the jury. When I watch Jones’ behavior, I do not see one red flag. I see nothing that alerts me to deception. I see honesty through and through. I believe Jones without any doubts. He is a good person caught in a horrible situation as is his mother.

And it looks like this case isn’t over yet. Remember that condom wrapper? Well, Jones defense attorneys had it tested for DNA and they found some. It belongs to a male other than Jones. Of course, people who thinks Jones is guilty will say this makes sense.

I think this DNA may provide important clues to help solve who really killed Dirksmeyer because it wasn’t Jones, if you want my personal opinion.