Tag Archive for: Dennis Rader

Melody Granadillo, Joran’s Ex-girlfriend Speaks

/in /by


ABC 20/20 video with Melody Granadillo and Chris Cuomo

ABC 20/20 tonight will show an interview with Melody Granadillo, Joran van der Sloot’s ex-girlfriend from Aruba. You can see a snippet of it here. It’s clear by this interview that Melody still has a soft spot for Joran. She appears to be a very kind, soft-hearted individual. When the two were together, there is little doubt that Joran called the shots.

Read moreInterestingly, Melody may never have been in danger with Joran, because psychopaths, even serial killers, often deem people “important” in their life, and these people they never seem to touch. It’s an odd phenomenon. Don’t get me wrong, I would never say you are safe with a psychopath, but most of them do have an odd history when you look at them.

Perhaps these “deemed-important-people” walk gingerly around these killers, and subconsciously know to never upset them. I don’t know. It would be interesting to study the personalities of those who were involved with psychopaths, who escaped their fury. What does a psychopath use to deem someone important? Joran still seemed to cling to Melody up until the end.

Think of BTK–aka Dennis Rader. He was married with children all of those years and never touched his wife or kids. Other serial killers, I think it was the Iceman, cried over someone he loved. I can’t remember if it was his mother who died when he was in prison or if he was falsely told his wife was dead or dying. Forgive me. Whatever it was, I remember being awestruck at how he had deemed someone of significance to him, because he was such a cold, callous man!

ABC 20/20 is also reporting this morning that Joran van der Sloot’s mom communicated with ABC and has stated she believes her son, Joran, is not a murderer. It’s not surprising, is it?

It surprises me that people can’t understand a parent’s denial. I can hear the logic from a distance. “I raised my son! I’ve known him his whole life. I know him better than anyone and he would not kill anyone. He could not kill anyone. They must have the wrong person. I am his mom and I know him the best!” Tell them that their child lies, and I can hear them reason back, “Who hasn’t lied? Who has raised a child that doesn’t lie?! Give me a break.”

BTK: Classic Neutral

/in /by

Dateline NBC had a special last week where they showed an interview with BTK. It was chilling watching a man who calculatedly killed so many people for over 30 years without getting caught.

Hearing him talk about these people—and how he killed them—made my skin crawl! He had absolutely no remorse for what he did, or for the victims or their families. His victims were clearly conquests, not people.

How erie is that??!

There are no two doubts about it: BTK, aka Dennis Rader, was a smart man—exceptionally smart, yet obviously mentally off, way-off.

He made me sit and look at myself. Could *I*, Eyes for Lies, have picked up on this man? Could I have sensed something was up with him?

I sat and pondered it. Would I have fallen victim to this man and befriended him if he were my neighbor? That was my question for the day.

He certainly had the looks to make me “want” to trust him. He certainly had that going for him, — especially when he was young.

We naturally want to trust those who are good-looking.

Would my instincts have told me differently in the company of his good looks? Certainly, I’ll never know. I can only guess…

I am not psychic, so I couldn’t have known anything more then the average person, unless he told a lie to me or to someone else I knew. He may not have had the need to lie to me, so I certainly couldn’t count on that to tip me off.

However, BTK fits my classic description of a “neutral” person: He is a person who doesn’t get excited, doesn’t show highs and lows in emotions. He stays on a neutral playing field. He does not give others vibes of joy, sorrow, happiness or pain. He is always even-keel—which is a warning to anyone.

People who are genuine to themselves and others feel sorrow, happiness, joy and pain.

When you or I see someone who is not showing these emotions, while we can’t gleam they are lying, because not all neutral people lie, we can be sure of one thing: They are hiding something. That something could be anything: benign or cancerous. It could be fear, insecurities, emotional troubles, a bad relationship, a difficult past, etc. The possibilities are endless.

In the case of BTK, we now know what he was hiding. Murder—serial murder.

Neutral people are detached and for a reason. About that you can be certain.

The million-dollar question is: What are they hiding? What is the reason for the detachment??

I am pretty sure I would have noted that BTK, aka Dennis Rader, was a neutral person, and I would have been naturally curious about him to the extent that I would have watched what he said to see if it matched what he did. The more I would have seen him lack “normal” emotion, the more concerned I would have become — and likely withdrawn from him. That’s about all I can say about Dennis.

Then again, he was a master manipulator—a manipulator I hope to never, ever meet in my lifetime!