Many of you are wondering what I see when I watch Elliot Rodger’s speak in the video above.

I see a man who is deeply, deeply hurt by rejection.

He is so hurt, so empty and so void inside from people looking right past him–right through him–for discounting him–that he fantasizes about causing others, anyone (as no one in society cared in his mind) the same agony he is feeling.

While it isn’t easy to listen to, I do believe Elliot is telling us the truth.

And at the same time, he throws out his deepest rejection of being a virgin, which sadly indicates he just wants to be understood. Deep inside I believe all Elliot wanted was to be understood and no matter how hard he tried, he failed.

I know many of you will say he isn’t showing any sadness in this video and I see that. I actually think his pain got so bad he disassociated himself from people, which made it easier to carry out his revenge.

I do see arrogance in this video as well as the joy he gets of thinking about his fantasy. There could be several explanations for the arrogance. I don’t have enough information here to address it.

I will say that deep, deep, extreme and prolonged rejection can cause people to want to want to lash out and to seek revenge, or conversely commit suicide. I don’t think as a society we understand it near enough nor do we know what to look for to spot it.

I have read that Elliot was diagnosed with Asperger syndrome and if this is true, it certainly could have lead to his feelings of isolation as could have his life of privilege. Both could have caused isolation.

I know many people immediately want to label Elliot a psychopath. I don’t have enough information at this point to say. Not all people who kill are psychopaths.